I’m sorry. I cannot remember if I have already posted this outfit. If not yet, here it is. If yes already, I really can’t remember so I’m reposting it. So nice kasi my top here.
Stradivarius actually has nice clothes. They are on sale last weekend. Hindi ko nga lang na-career. Next time maybe.
Anyway, a lot of soon to be moms and new moms are asking me about postpartum depression. Ano daw yun? What can they do to prepare for it?
Like any depression, postpartum depression is hard to expain to people who never had it. It can always be assumed as arte lang or as a weakness. They are very wrong. Para sa mga nangangailangan there, here is my experience with post partum depression. Sana makatulong.
From babycenter.com, it is almost normal daw to feel sad after childbirth. Almost 80% of new mothers experience baby blues. This actually happens up to two weeks after giving birth. Eto daw yung iyakin ka, anxious and hindi ka makakatulog.
If your sadness persists beyond two weeks, you might have Postpartum Depression na.
From Wikipedia, Postpartum depression (PPD), also called postnatal depression, is a type of clinical depression which can affect both sexes after childbirth. Symptoms may include sadness, low energy, changes in sleeping and eating patterns, reduced desire for sex, crying episodes, anxiety, and irritability.
When I learned that I was pregnant, I worried more about postpartum depression than learning how to breastfeed.
Praning na praning ako to have postpartum depression since I have a history of anxiety depression. I asked by OB about it. She confirmed my haka-haka. She said that since I had a history of depression, this may cause or trigger PPD given the hormones are all over the place during the 3rd trimester until giving birth.
What did I do to prepare for it?
One, I read a lot about it. As in basa ako ng basa online. I forced Alvin to read about it too. However, since my husband is so lazy to read, I read the articles to him. Tinatagalog ko para may impact. Hahaha!
Two, I made sure that Alvin understood what postpartum depression is. After battling anxiety depression, I know that it is important to have a support system during that time. You will need a lot of understanding and support from your loved ones for you to get over it. I told Alvin what to expect. I told him that if I cry ng walang dahilan, wag siyang matataranta or ma-ooffend. I asked him to just hug me and to just say encouraging words. Wag niya kako ako aawayin. It will not be helpful.
After I gave birth, eto na.
I suddenly found myself alone in the room with Anika. She was crying and crying. I was running on a two hour sleep. My cesarian wound was aching. Ang pangit ko. Ang taba ko. My nipples ached. Basang basa ang t-shirt ko with all the milk coming out. I wanted to pee but cannot because the maid was taking a bath in the bathroom. Wala si Alvin, pumasok sa office.
I lost it.
Parang everything went back to normal for everyone except me.
I was hirap na hirap, scared and frustrated.
Ang Alvin nasa office.
Hell broke loose when he came back home. Para akong nasapian.
I cried and cried. I was throwing things around pero quietly. Tulog si Anika eh. I was so mad! Sabi ko feeling ko single mother ako!
Nagpaka-Vilma Santos ako! Best actress levelz. Kung hindi lang masakit ang tahi ko, nagpa-dausdos din ako sa likod ng door namin.
Good thing Alvin was briefed well about postpartum depression. He hugged me and almost always went home early after that dramarama show that I did. He minded Anika and let me sleep for a couple of house. Malaking bagay yun.
On my part, I fought my postpartum depression like I fought my anxiety depression before. This one’s easier though because I kept on thinking that I needed to get a grip and get well agad kasi may umaasa sa akin na bata. Although comparing, milder ang postpartum ko kaysa sa anxiety depression. Either that or I know na kasi to handle it na that time.
To give due credit to my husband, I have to say that I was able to recover quickly because of him. He really did his part. He took care of Anika a couple of times so that I can rest. He took me out to dinner para maka-labas. He listened to my whining. He comforted and hugged me. He extended his patience and understanding so we wouldn’t fight. In short, hindi niya ako pinatulan.
He supported me in that stage. And I really appreciated it.
From this website, I got a list of the strongest predictors of postpartum depression:
- bouts of intense anxiety or depression while you were pregnant, particularly in the third trimester
- prior history of depression or anxiety
- family history of depression or anxiety
- marital difficulties
- stressful life events such as financial problems or the loss of a job
- childcare stress
- inadequate social support
- having to care for a child with a difficult temperament
- low self-esteem
Ako naman, apart from the list above, basta if you feel that something is wrong, just talk to your husband or mother or close friends. Ilabas mo yang feelings mo. Surround yourself with people who love you. It will help a lot. And stay away from negative people and from those who agitate you. Wag mo silang papasukin ng bahay mo.
Finally, remember that this negative feeling will pass. Try not to dwell on it. Focus on your adorable baby and how much he or she needs you.
Malalagpasan mo yan, promise.
Remember, a happy baby needs a happy mommy!