Before ako magemote today, allow me to show you my OOTD a few weeks back.
I love my palazzo pants. They’re really very comfy. This can be my daily uniform too as long as meron ako waist.
Anyway, I recently learned that Alvin does not think that I’m a hands on mom to Anika.
I can feel my blog trolls’ ears pricking up right now. Go mga bakla. I’m sure hindi kayo busy. I will welcome all nasty comments in this blog entry.
I have to admit that at the start, I felt hurt. Hindi na nga ako magkana-ugaga with everything that I had to do and yet hindi pala siya enough.
No, hindi ako nagwar freak
agad. I wanted to know san nanggagaling si Alvin.
But when I stopped to analyze everything, I realized, wait, I never said that I was a hands-on mom. How can I be eh I am not at home most of the time?!
My question was “Does Alvin want me to be a hands-on mom?”. What does he mean by being a hands on mom?
Given that he is a man and ang mga lalaki ay black and white lang, I can conclude na what he means is that I do not do everything that needs to be done for Anika like cooking for her, bathing her, fixing her hair, washing her clothes, preparing her school things everyday, bringing and picking her up in school etc etc.
I admit that I really do not do all of that every day. Kalokohan na kaya ko pa gawin lahat yun araw araw plus have a full time work. Ano ako, alien?
Pero, pero, pero… I make sure there are people who do that and na nagagawa ang mga iyon. I make sure there is always food in the house. I make sure Anika gets high grades in school. I make sure she eats well. I make sure she drinks her meds and vitamins. I make sure hindi siya mukhang dugyot in school or whenever we go out. I make sure she has sufficient books to read and stuff to do in her spare time. I make sure na pangaralan siya so that she will grow up to be a good person. And I make sure I am physically there whenever she’s sick.
I am not a hands-on mom but nobody can say that I am not doing my very best in taking care of her.
I called Alvin a couple of minutes ago to ask him about it again. Hindi kasi ako mapakali. Typical me. He was in the office and it was really obvious that he was uncomfortable being confronted out of the blue. He said it was dati pa and he forgot na why he said it. He also told me that I can’t be a hands on mom because I’m working.
I know, pero bakit niya nga nasabi?
One, hindi daw niya alam. Two, it’s not an issue with him. And three, he needs to go back to his meeting na.
Ang labo nila kausap.
What I’m trying to say here muthers is that we should not beat ourselves out too much when it comes to being affected by what other people say about our mothering. The mere fact that we are mothers, given na yun na what we try to give our kids are the best para sa kanila. Walang tao ang pwedeng magjudge nun so we should stop feeling guilty.
I do not feel guilty that I’m not a hands-on-mom. I do not feel guilty that I don’t feel guilty. Gets?
Basta as far as I am concerned, I try to be the best mother for Anika. Bahala sila sa buhay nila.
Isingit ko na din.
I remember saying here that I am jealous of stay-at-home moms and how I wish to be in their place.
After spending 10 days with Arnaiz in Los Angeles, who is a stay-at-home mom, binabawi ko na yun, gelz.
I don’t think I can be a hard core stay at home mom. Yung talagang wala mga househelp ha? I feel that I’m not fit to be one.
Iba ang talents na kailangan i-posses ng isang stay at home mom without kasambahays.
Ang patience required pa lang to be one, hindi ko na kaya.
Siguro kaya ko, I mean, kakayanin ko but I don’t think I’m cut out for it. One, hahanapin ng katawan ko talaga magwork. Two, I don’t think I can stay in the house the whole day. Three, it is not easy being in the house most of the time without any adult to talk to. Nakakawindang!
And how do you guys pee or poop or take a bath with a clingy baby? How can you clean the house, do the laundry, cook and keep the kids alive at the same time?
Stay-at-home moms are selfless people. They are a different breed of women that deserves our respect. Dapat there’s a seminar for husbands of stay-at-home moms where the husbands should be required to attend. The husbands should be taught how to help their wives and not to take them for granted. They should learn how to be mindful to make an effort to make the daily activities easier for the moms.
Stay-at-home moms, tama akish di ba?
So there. Those are my muni muni for the day.
Happy weekend guys!