Papalagpasin ko na sana eh kaso lang hindi ako matahimik.
I already packed my laptop away. 10 minutes ago, I was finishing my reports for our early Operations Meeting tomorrow. I saw that there was one pending comment in the blog so I read it.
She commented on the post The Aftermath. Ang OA daw kasi namin. “Inistress” lang daw namin ang bata.
I closed my laptop and started preparing for Anika’s school grab kit.
Eh hindi ako mapakali.
I opened my laptop again and here I am now.
Seriously, sige nga. Sinong Nanay diyan ang gustong mahirapan ang anak niya?! Sinong Nanay diyan ang gustong mapasama anak niya?! I think better na “OA” kami kaysa super passive then magrisk may mangyaring masama pa more sa anak. I can tell you more than 10 true to life stories of parents who were not able to detect, identify and act on something immediately regarding their kids’ health that resulted to either permanent damage or death of their children.
Aantayin pa ba dapat yun?!
It’s not actually yung pagka-kitid lang ng utak yung kina-iinisan ko eh. It’s the way how some people do mom-shaming. The sad part there is women or fellow mothers ang mahilig mag-mom shame ng ibang tao.
Seriously, ladies. We should be protecting one another not putting each other down.
For example, yung hina-hanash ni Maggie Wilson a few days ago. Someone close to her mom-shamed her. You can just click that sentence to go to the story. Why does she wear skimpy clothes daw eh nanay na siya. Ehem. Pag ba Nanay ka na, hindi ka na pwede mag-bikini?! If my body were as fit and toned as Maggie’s, malamang naka-two piece ako lagi. Kahit sa grocery store, two piece ako.
Why are we shaming each other? Nakaka-bawas ba sa pagkatao niyo if you see a mom in a skimpy attire? Nasa beach naman. Magulat kayo if naka-maong longsleeves siya sa beach.
There is nothing wrong in wearing a two piece swimsuit in a beach regardless if you are a mom or a single woman.
And a mother cannot be judged with what she wears. Open your minds, people.
Next example, yung hina-hanash naman ni Cat Arambulo. She is exploiting and extorting daw her kids. Click the sentence for the story. First and foremost, if you do not know, Cat Arambulo’s family is rich. Cat Arambulo’s husband is rich. I should know because I worked for her husband’s family corporation before. Hindi sila naghihirap and their kids do not need to work. The kids are well provided for. Nakita niyo ba ilang yaya ang kasama nila when they go out? Hindi nila kailangan to do sideline work para mabuhay. They allow their kids, or specifically their son, to do “work” (if you can even call it that) so that they can learn the value of responsibility at an early age. They are lucky pa nga eh kasi they have opportunities like that. And I can bet my year’s worth of shopping money that none of the money that their son “earns” go to their parents pockets para pambili ng expensive bags.
Why are some people affected with that? Why do they automatically assume that when a child gets paid for something, kinukurakot na agad ng magulang?
Let’s deviate dito sa mga famous personalities.
Punta na lang tayo sa mga simpleng people like me. I cannot count how many times I have been shamed for wanting to work instead of staying home to take care of the family. I cannot count how many times I have been shamed because Anika gets sick all the time. Parang kasalanan ko ang lahat. I cannot count how many times I have been shamed because I shop a lot. As if I ask my shopping money from them.
I will not justify each and every thing that they said because well, fuck them all.
The negative things that you say to mothers like how to raise our kids, how to act and dress in public and how to talk ay hindi nakakatulong sa bansang ito. Walang magandang nagagawa ito. Hindi niyo din ito ikaka-asenso. So why the hell do you do this? Perfect kasi kayo? If you say you are, alika, please have coffee with me. I want to know you. I want to know how you do it. I want to interview you. I want to know “how to be you, po?”. And I will blog about it so that dumami din ang perfect na mothers like you.
Otherwise, shut the hell up.
Stop the hate.
Stop the mom shaming.
Stop putting other girls down.
Rather, magsimba kayo for world peace para magkasilbi naman kayo.