Muthers, enough na dun sa tao na yun. I would like to think na siguro she is not a parent yet that’s why she was able to say those things. Baka ngayon siguro, because of all the comments and sharing, naiintindihan niya why when it comes to our kids, over acting talaga tayo.
The learning with everything that has happened is that let us not mom-shame each other. Let’s not put other women down. Hindi ako nagmamalinis ha? I’m guilty of doing that before. Ma-comment pa naman ako na tao. But then I realized bringing up kids is hard enough. The pressure of making sure they are healthy and will not get hurt or die under our care can drive oneself crazy. Bakit pa natin dadagdagan ng negativity? Dapat love, love, love na.
Anyway, speaking of OA, when it comes to Anika’s health, I am really over acting. If I am over acting, I do not know how to describe how Alvin is sa unica hija niya. Mas over sa akin yun. Like 10 times more.
But, bakit nga ba tayo over acting? I can speak only for myself now ha pero here are my reasons.
It is difficult magdunong dunungan when you’re child’s sick. I am not a doctor. I honestly do not know what to do if she gets sick beyond the normal sickness that I can manage (sinat, colds and one day fever). I do not recommend self treating the child or managing their sakit at home if you are not a physician. Si Gabo nga, dinala nila sa hospital last weekend because ang red-red ng tongue niya. One of the signs kasi daw yun ng Kawasaki virus. Thank God negative naman ang results. Viral lang daw sabi ng mga doctors but partida, doctor na nanay ni Gabo niyan ha. She didn’t risk it too. Anak yan eh. Susugal ka ba?
Next, we have a health card. I am recommending everyone to have one. I can bring Anika to the ER/hospital whenever I want without the fear na malaki ang babayaran. I think that is one of the limitations why other parents do not bring their kids to the ER agad. Health cards are one of the best investments for me. Secured ka na hindi mo na iintindihin yung money if you want to be checked up. Well of course, hindi naman sinat lang eh you’ll bring na the child to the doctor. My rule is if Anika’s high fever has been running for two days na, punta na for check up. If you see a doctor earlier kasi, hindi pa madedetect ano yung sakit talaga eh. Sayang ang punta. But, if kahit first day pa lang pero there are unusual and scary things that are happening, like nosebleeding for an hour na with high fever, i-sugod na sa hospital yan.
Para sa akin, okay na mapuyat and mapagod in the hospital rather than wag dalhin and pagsisihan pa after.
Remember guys, never napunta sa unahan ang pagsisisi. Lagi nasa huli yan.
Yes, true. Bringing the kids to the hospital stresses the hell out of them. But bringing them there will also identify if they have to be treated further or if they are fine. “Benefit outweighs the risk” in those situations, ika nga.
So yes, I am over acting when it comes to Anika’s health.
Hindi ako over acting with other things like hovering around her. As much as possible, I let her be. I let her commit mistakes so she can learn from them. I let her play outside. I am learning not to be stressed with the grades she goes home with. As long as I see that she’s trying her best to study, that is enough for me. Kung titingnan mo naman, the most successful people are not always the ones with high grades in school. Tama di ba?
Yun lang, mommies. Let’s fill this world up with love and support. Mahirap magpalaki ng anak. Magtulungan na lang tayo.
I thank you, bow =D
Have a great day everyone!