Happy Easter everyone!
For today, I want to write about positivity. One of my blog readers messaged me last Thursday. She saw me daw in Jollibee near Malate church while doing the Bisita Iglesia. She didn’t say hi in person kasi nahihiya daw siya so she just sent me a message that night. Sabi niya, mukha daw ako walang pinagdadaanan.
First, thank you and yes, I get that a lot.
For me kasi, andun na eh, I’m going through something difficult, why do I have to show it to the whole wide world pa? Ang lakas niya maka-nega. And we all know, we attract what we think. How will I get better if puno ako ng negativity? So I try to be positive all the time which is not easy. Alvin and my closest confidants have seen me at my “worstest” worst. Hindi mo aaklain na ako yun. It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, ika nga nila, when you have this condition. However, whether you have anxiety or none, you will go through experiences na hindi magaganda.
What will you do about it? That is the question.
My advice is try not to be a negative person.
Eto, gawin niyo tong checklist. See if you are a negative fellow. I found this online: 15 Signs of Negative People. I won’t enumerate the list here anymore pero here are some the most common traits I notice with the negative people around me:
- They worry a lot.
- They try to tell you what to do.
- They live in a default position. This means they are in constant look out for fear and danger.
- They are pessimist.
- They complain a lot.
- They become energy vampires. Do know people na if you’re with them parang nade-drain ka? Sila yun.
So are you a negative person? It takes a lot para aminin ito ha? But you need to accept it so you can change yourself. I realized that dati I was a negative person pala. Though, I encourage positivity and I make people laugh, there is a side of me na nega. Gusto kong alisin yun. Life is too short to be negative. You don’t know until when ka lang mabubuhay. Yes I understand may pinagdadaanan ka but,
a.) I am sure there is always somebody else out there who are in worse situations.
b.) I am sure things will get better someday. You just have to ride it out.
c.) God is there. You just have to trust him.
I am sure Pineda will not mind so I will make her as an example. Pineda told me dati that she was a negative person. Puno siya ng worry sa katawan. JR, her husband, was her opposite. Itong si JR naman is napaka-positive. There was a time Pineda was so down because of her problems. Naiinis na sa kanya si JR kasi wala daw magagawa yung pagka-negative niya sa mga problems niya. Over time, with the help of JR’s nagging and yung mga talks dun sa Victory fellowship that they attended, she was able to change her attitude. Because of that and because of her trust in God, Pineda now is thriving. She was able to find ways how to solve her problem. Instead of dwelling in them, she is now in the middle of doing something she likes and the same time, nakakatulong masolve yung problema niya.
See what positivity can do? =) Kaya feed your positivity. I do this by praying, reading the bible verses Lolo Papa gave me and doing the things I am grateful for list.
May money problems ka? Isipin mo yan ang pinaka-madaling problema sa lahat. I heard that from Vivian in 2015 nung down na down kami ni Alvin dahil dun sa halos makukulong na siya dahil sa pera na hindi naman niya kasalanan. Vivian said, be thankful walang may sakit sa amin na malubha. That is a bigger problem.
Feeling mo mataba ka? You worry about your weight? Nalalakihan ka sa thighs mo? Think about all those people in the hospital now. Don’t you feel lucky na at least ikaw, mataba ka nga, pero wala ka naman sakit? You go through life living without pain.
Help other people. Ang sarap ng feeling. It can add to your positivity. Hindi mo kailangan gumawa ng outreach program mala-Angel Locsin to help. Even with just listening to a friend na may problem and helping her solve it, okay na yun. Or donate stuff to the Marawi victims.
Lessen the stress in your life. I realized that recently lang, thanks to my anxiety condition. Piliin mo lang yung ikaka-stress mo sa buhay. Yung magulong bahay, hayaan mo na yun. Nakaka-inis yung katulong niyo? Either accept mo na lang siya or lay her off. Do not do a lot of things at the same time. I stopped doing that. Nobody is expecting me to be like that. It was something I imposed myself and para lang akong loka-loka.
Madami pa diyang steps how to be positive. Ito basahin niyo din tong article na ito I found online: How To Stay Positive.
Lastly, always think about what you are grateful for.
When I do that, Alvin and Anika are always in my top list. God, I am really grateful for these two. They love me and they said hindi daw nila ako iiwan.
I am grateful Alvin was able to be more open about anxiety depression. Hindi yan naniniwala dati sa sakit ko. Hindi ko naman din sure if he believes na fully now because he said dati he will never have this kasi happy person siya. He looks for things to do para mawala anxiety niya. Well, if an anxiety disorder attacks you, no matter how happy and strong you are, wala ka. Magkakaron ka nito. Parang trangkaso nga. Walang pinipili. Nevertheless, I am grateful for Alvin kasi whether he believes in this or not, naka-support siya. Hinabaan pa niya pasensya na and he let me do things I like while covering for me sa house. He made me feel that he is a permanent fixture in my life who I can depend on and that makes me feel a lot, lot less anxious about things.
I am grateful for my family. My dad, like how he was in 2004 when I had anxiety depression, is in full support pa din despite being thousands of miles away. He prays for me all the time. He has a gift of healing and I can feel it all the way here. Wowa, LT, Toots, Faye with their significant others are there when I ask them. Hindi sila yung mga nagyayaya lumabas or get together (that is my role dito sa family ko na ito) pero when I ask for them, they go.
I am extremely grateful for my in-laws. I am one of the few na swerte sa mga biyenan, bayaw and bilas. I know madami sa inyo gusto akong sabunutan sa inggit, pero yes, swerte talaga ako sa kanila. They are mababait to me and my family.
I am also grateful for my friends. Feel ko kasi na nandiyan talaga sila despite us not seeing each other often.
Well, except for Janis and Alfred na halos araw araw talaga nasa bahay nung kasagsagan ng ganito ko, I message and viber a lot with them kahit na hindi kami masyadong nagkikita kita. Peachy even gave me that Mary Undoer of Knots statue so I can pray for her. Vivian shared the novena to the Sacred Heart with I prayed twice a day dati.
I also have friends and confidants who are faceless. Hindi sila nakikita dito sa blog ko pero they are also my source of positivity. Pwede kong sabihin na hindi ko siguro kinaya if wala din sila.
And of course, diyosme naluluha na ako, I am forever grateful for my blog readers. Grabe ang support niyo guys. Yan ang difference ng 2004 disorder ko compared sa ngayon. Mas madali magcope ngayon dahil feel na feel ko ang support and pag-alala niyo. Para kayong mga cheerleaders ng buhay ko and with that, I am forever grateful talaga. Swerte ako sa inyo.
Alam niyo ba minsan napapa-isip ako. Sabi ko parang naiinggit ako dun sa ibang bloggers na libo libo talaga ang followers sa Instagram and Facebook. Naiinggit ako kasi may mga awards sila. Sabi ko kako, bakit ako wala na compared during the first five years of my blogging career. Well, apart from the fact na hindi ko naman kasi talaga kinakareer na ang pagba-blog ngayon like they do, wapakels ako kasi I know hindi man tens of thousands ang nagfa-follow sa akin, sure ako na halos kumare ko na kayong lahat. I mean, hindi ko lang kayo blog readers only, friendships na tayo.
I can feel your empathy sa akin and sa family ko. Literally bumuhos talaga ang messages and get well soon for me nung nagkasakit ako ng ganito. And I will never want to exchange you guys sa tens or hundreds of thousands of followers na nanonood lang and wapakels naman sa finafollow nila. Okay, naiiyak na talaga ako. Maraming salamat, mga bakla. Hindi niyo lang alam talaga how grateful I am for each one of you.
Ayown. Whew. Thank you.
For this Easter, let’s start being grateful guys. Be grateful over the smallest things. Lumabas ka and breathe the fresh morning air. Be thankful buhay ka. Be thankful kumpleto ang body parts mo. Be thankful may work ka kahit halos isumpa mo na mga workmates mo. Be thankful you have the ability to be able to inspire and help others.
I leave you with this quote I got from Wordables in Instagram. Mother of all quotes for today.
“At the end of life, what really matters is not what we bought but what we built, not what we got but what we shared, not our competence but our character, and not our success but our significance. Live a life that matters. Live a life of love.”
Happy Easter everyone!