I am very affected Kate Spade committed suicide.
Kate Spade was a fashion designer and a businesswoman. Together with her husband, they founded the designer brand Kate Spade New York. As you all know, it is my favorite brand of bag. Ang fun kasi ng designs. The bags are very colorful. The prints are loud and whimsical. Papansin ang bags. May mga sobrang arteng bags and meron din very elegant and functional. You’ve also read here na halos masiraan ako ng bait when I saw the Kate Spade outlet store in Canada. Ganun ko ka-gusto yung bags niya.
Kate Spade had a husband, a daughter, a business and a brand (albeit selling all her shares na to Neiman Marcus in 2006). She was beautiful and famous and I am sure malamang wala silang problema sa pera.
Yesterday, Kate Spade was found dead in her apartment in apparent suicide. Her husband released a statement that Kate has been battling anxiety and depression for five years now. She was actively seeking treatment and was working closely with her doctors. She was taking her medicines and there was no substance or alcohol abuse. Wala din daw business problems. Her husband also said that they have been living apart for 10 months now although no talks naman about divorce. They were still talking to each other regularly and have been going on vacations together as a family before this has happened.
It is said that Kate Spade was a very happy person. In the articles where they were interviewing her friends and family, Kate daw was a very funny person. Tawa lang daw ng tawa. One time she also told that friend that she will never do that (suicide).
And yet, she did it. She also apparently left a note to her daughter.
Nakakalungkot talaga because I feel for all those people who are suffering from mental illness. Walang pinipili ang mental illness, mga bakla. Regardless if madami kang pera, sikat ka, kumpleto pamilya mo or madaming nagmamahal sayo, all of us can have it. Like I said before, it’s an illness. Parang trangkaso. Does flu pick only the sad people? No. Ang mga trinatrangkaso lang ba ay yung mga may problema? No, right? That’s the same with mental illness.
I can’t help to analyze why Kate Spade committed suicide. Feeling ko dinadamdam niya all this time her separation with her husband albeit they just live a couple of houses away. She may have looked okay on the outside pero deep inside, she’s very, very sad and lonely. Hindi ko naman din kasi maisip why she had nobody staying with her in her house eh she’s battling depression nga. She must have felt really, really sad and hopeless to end her life given na she has a daughter. Ibang klase yun.
Actually, we don’t know talaga. Wala naman tayo sa lives nila so we really do not know the exact reason why she did that. All I know is having a mental illness is so hard. I hope society, especially here in our country, starts giving it more importance. I saw pala a meme online that I’d like to share here. It had a quote:
“The worst thing that you can do to someone who has an invisible illness is to make them feel that they have to prove to you how sick they are.”
I wanted to share that because I’ve experienced that even with the people who love me. Mental illness is very hard to explain to people who do not have them. Kaya please, wag niyo nang kontrahin or ipajustify pa. In short, let us all be kind and support one another.
Remember mga bakla, not all people who laugh and nagpapatawa are happy. Not all things are what they seem. I hope we can encourage them to talk about what they really feel without the fear of them being judged. We may save more lives this way.
Lastly, being someone who have battled depression and is presently undergoing therapy for anxiety disorde, may narealize ako. Faith in God is very important. It gives you hope that there is a big being out there who can make things all better if you beg enough. I’m not sure if you like the term begging but that was what I did. I begged God to help me get better everyday. And you know, I got better. Basta siguro may pinanghahawakan tayo na faith that God is good and hindi niya tayo papabayaan, it will help a lot in the process in getting well. I can’t help to wonder again if malakas ba din kaya ang faith ni Kate. If yes, why did she give up? Again, I cannot blame her given that she has an illness. Support talaga lang ang kailangan. Madaming madaming support and understanding from the family and friends of the person.
I will leave again the hotlines that anyone can call whenever you need someone to talk with or just someone to listen to you: