We visited Pineda and her family the other night because she has recently given birth to their third baby.
After dinner, the kids (Anika 8, Maeko 6 and Mirko 2), Pineda and I hung out in their bedroom with the newborn baby. The kids were playing while nagchichikahan kami ni Pineda. Grabe, ang gugulo and ingay! Saway ako ng saway! Sigaw silang tatlo ng sigaw! Maya maya may magsusumbong. Maya maya may umiiyak. Pero sobra ang tawanan. At that moment, I imagined how it is to have so many children!
It made me also think. Women who have 3 or more kids and who opted to be a stay at home mom without kasambahay and yaya are out of this world! I mean, wild! How do they do it?! They cook the food, clean the house, do the laundry, wash the dishes, feed the pets, bathe all the kids (partida if you have a baby, hindi mo naman pwede iwan yan mag-isa while you’re doing all the bathing of the other kids), prepare their baons, prepare them for school, bring them to school, pick them up, do errands, teach them their homeworks at night and still have the energy to have sex with the husband at night. Seriously, kelan itong mga mommies na ito nakakaligo during the day? How do they find time to do that? Can they still find time for themselves? Can they even take a nap in the afternoon? Mind you, all day every day yan ha? No lunch breaks. No sick leaves. No vacation leaves.
I give props to these women because they are a different breed. I think they have super powers. Meron siguro silang bato ni Darna hidden somewhere. I don’t think my sanity can last for 10 minutes with all the kids, shouting and chores to be done –> Every. Freaking. Day.
Alam niyo ba that night, I almost had an anxiety attack by just thinking about having 3 kids below 8 years old in the house. How can you give attention to everyone? Si Anika lang, ubos na ubos na ako kaka-answer ng lahat ng questions niya in life. How much more 3 little persons asking you about everything all at the same time?! And when they get sick ng sabay sabay, nakakawindang siguro ano?
I am not sure if I’m built for that. Though hindi din natin masabi too ‘coz at 20 years old, I didn’t want to have kids. At 26 years old, I wanted to have 5 kids. When Anika was born, I didn’t want to have any more kids because of the trauma I went through while I was pregnant with her and while giving birth. And here I am in my late 30s, begging the Lord for another baby.
Maybe they don’t mind the crazy-ness in the house. At the end of the day kasi when you think of it, ang saya nila. Imagine ang gugulo. Ang daming tumatawa. Mas madaming naghaharutan. Sa amin siguro especially if Anika’s future siblings will be as witty and kaloka as her, enjoy na enjoy siguro kami ni Alvin.
I don’t know.
We don’t know.
I’m not sure if we’ll ever know.
Have a great weekend guys!