One thing I pray for Anika is that she’ll have long time friends like mine.
Back when I was younger, I wanted to have so many friends. It a sign for me kasi that I belong. I felt that time, the more friends I have, the more likable I was.
I was wrong.
Time showed me that not all friends are true friends. As time passed, I lost some of them. Ibig sabihin, hindi ko talaga sila friends. The ones I have now are the tried and tested na. They were filtered out by circumstances and events. Sila yung nagtagal talaga.
I have Alvin who not only was my friend since my high school days, he became my husband as well. Sabi nga nila di ba, dapat ang papakasalan mo is a friend, first and foremost. Yung romance kasi dims pero yung friendship hindi.
I have my best friends. Actually, kaya ko sila best friends kasi sila na talaga yung natitira kong mga friends na I believe would never sell me out to anyone. They are the ones I trust with my life. Ride or die. May ganun. However, they didn’t become my best friends over night. Again, tested by time, distance and good and bad events. Matatag. Sila yung mga kaya akong pagpasensyahan and mga kaya ko din pagpasensyahan. Kanya kanya tayong quirks kasi di ba? They have accepted me for who I am and I have accepted them for who they are.
I wish when Anika grows up, she will have friends like mine. I know in the process of finding real friends, she will get hurt and get betrayed by fake ones. I think that’s okay kasi pain will lead her to her truest of true friends.
Finding real friends is important because they are the family that we get to choose, right? This is also important for Anika because she’s the only child. Apart from her Tatay and I, I want her to have friends who are good influence because I know she will run to them someday instead of sa amin. It is inevitable. Sana lang marunong siya pumili ng kaibigan.
Where will she copy the values of finding true and good friends? First, sa atin siyempre, right? What we are, they copy. How we are to our friends, malamang ganun din sila. Second, Anika seldom watches TV. But when she does, I make her watch The Epic Tales of Captain Underpants in Netflix. Magandang cartoons ito because the value of friendship is evident. It teaches her empathy, patience and love. Okay din.
Any tips mothers how you teach the value of friendship to your kids? Yung tipong magiging good friend din sila pero hindi to a point na aabusuhin. Ganyan kasi ako dati. When I have friends, nagpapa-abuso talaga ako. All out kasi ako. Good thing natuto din ako to choose kanino lang ako magiging ganun.
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