Date: June 14, 2010
Girlie: Ate, pagnagmall tour si Sam Milby sa SM Sucat or SM Bicutan, wala nang paa-paalam ha? Susugod ako agad dun!
ME: Loka loka! Sige, basta wag mong lang isama si Anika!
Anyways, sadly, wala siyang nakitang artista. Super malas niyan because when we are not with her, we always see someone in Greenbelt. Maiyak iyak ang lola niyo when I called her up to tell her we saw Maja Salvador when we were buying my crocs sandals hehe!
Back to the malling, Girlie & I ate at World Chicken ‘coz I was so hungry. A lady was smiling at Anika and asked us her age. We told her, 2 months. Then she told us that she was too young to be going to the mall. PAKIALAMERANG FROG!! Eh galgal anak ko eh, san pa ba magmamana yan! sheeesh!
After a while, we met up with Wowa and ate at Cibo. We ordered pate with bread, smoked ham and mushroom pizza and Tiramisu (yes, kumain ulit ako.. I love Cibo’s Tiramisu! Tomorrow na lang ako magdadiet promise).
The result for her first gimik: Wowa and I were so happy but Tatay was so stressed. First time ni Tatay na may inaalagan & inaasikaso sa malls. Wowa & I were so sanay na because we made pasyal Havi all the time when Anika wasnt born yet =)
Here are the pictures:
I’ve been tinkering around here in blogger.com and found that I can now change my template to a better one. I also added a visitor counter so I’d know how much love this blog is getting =) Cool huh?!
At the moment, di ko pa naman kinakareer ang pagbloblogging. Correct! Hindi pa to pangangareer! hehe! I just want a place where my friends can read updates about me and my family (especially Anika), read anecdotes about our everyday lives and somehow learn from what I write. This blog is very raw pa. Very unlike my “idol” blogs like manilareviews.com, topazhorizon.com, heretishietishie.blogspot.com, mabuhaygirl.multiply.com etc (I so love these blogs!). Although raw, I hope in a way I have provided temporary humor or helped you guys especially other mommies and mommies-to-be out there =)
So my dear friends and “secret followers” (lolz!), feel free to comment on my entries ayt?
Love yah all!!
Im happy to announce that come July 12, 2010, this momma will be re-joining the Philippine workforce!! Yup! An offer has been made and I have accepted. Aside from being a semi-spoiled wifey, doting mommy, obsessive-compulsive boss of Anika’s yaya and of our househelp, lazy at times blogger and a still self confessed shopaholic, I can now add back the title CIVIL ENGINEER to the many adjectives that describe me.
Im so excited and yet apprehensive in starting on this new job. I have been out of the workforce for 14 months! You see, I have been blessed with a-then-fiance and now wonderful hubby who provides well for me and made me feel that I need not work but still have the wedding of my dreams and still buy whatever I want.
That changed when Anika arrived. Our 15 thousand peso monthly budget for house expenses doubled. I realized this when I was doing an inventory of the things we pay monthly for. The list looked like this:
House Rent: 7,500
Electricity Bill: 9,000 (yeah i know, everyday aircon because Anika gets rashes in this harsh and hot weather)
Grocery: 5,000 (includes the basic house necessities plus Anika’s toiletries and diapers)
Wet Market: 2,800 (meat, fish, vegetables)
Yaya & Househelp : 5,500
TV Cable: 500
Mineral Water Delivery: 1,000
Anika’s Milk Formula: 4,000
Oven Gas: 600
Cellphone bills: 2,000
Carried over bayarin when I was still single: 4,000
Wala pa dyan ang pang shopping namin ni Anika and our movie dates and dinner outs! I showed this list to Alvin and initiated the talk why I should go back to work. Alvin can provide, yes no doubt about that and I always thank God He gave me a very responsible husband. However, I am not ashamed to admit that kulang pa din. He covers the basic everyday needs but what about our luho?! Im not gonna be plastic to say I dont need nice clothes and bags every now and then. I will not allow my first ever baby not to have nice things. Wala naman yatang mommy (lalo na kasing arte ko) who will not at least wish for that. Im gonna be really grouchy and I dont think it will be healthy for both our relationships.
Not only that ha but how about our savings for other things? Both of us love to travel pa naman. Also, we have to save for Anika’s education. Preschool pa lang now costs around 100,000 pesos in Colegio San Agustin. Pano pa grade school and high school? Even in La Salle, from the 25k per term when I was there, I was told now it’s almost 80k per term! No offense to other parents out there but Alvin’s and my parents have set the bar high when it comes to our education. Nakakahiya naman ata that I studied in the best schools and I was able to choose whatever university I wanted to go to tpos si Anika kung san san lang, diba?
Another thing, Alvin & I believe in saving for the rainy days. No matter gano ka-gastos kami everyday, dapat may nakatabi talaga for emergency use. And also, may nakatabi na savings for us and Anika. In short, hindi ka dapat na-ze-zero.
I told Alvin that wala kaming inaasahan for our everyday things. We don’t have the financial advantages of those couples who live in their parents house (no offense guys!). Grocery, utilities etc, amin lahat. That’s why I need to work to contribute. While I envy those stay at home moms who can afford to be with their babies 24/7 and the same time nakukuha ang luho, I don’t feel bad that I have to work. I wanna help Alvin and I know in God’s will, one day, magiging donya din ako! CHOZ!!
However, while looking at Anika while she sleeps on my chest, I suddenly got teary eyed. Im going to miss being with her everyday. I will miss playing with her all the time. It’s a heavy feeling that makes me want to reconsider my decision. I have been told that I should be a hands on mom to my baby pero how about her other needs? I promised myself that I will spend quality time with Anika no matter what happens.
I will surely miss waking up to this:
and to this:
Note to Anika:
Nanay will work very hard for you baby. Even if you will only see me in the mornings before i leave for work and at night when i come rushing home, always remember that I love you soooo much. Yaya Girlie will be there but I know you can never replace Nanay in that tiny heart of yours. I love you.
When i was still pregnant with Anika, I was so clueless with what I need to buy for her. Being a first time mom, I wished there was a list of what to buy, how many and what brand. I searched the internet but can’t find one site where they have a comprehensive list of all the things your future newborn needs. Good thing, I have Rain Parumog, one of my bestfriends to ask. She already has a toddler and was pregnant also with their second baby girl. I text her day and night for questions about baby clothes and which brands are ok. If not for her, I would have bought all the expensive things na lang to make sure na okay yung nabili ko.
So now, Im presenting to you, all mothers to be, a comprehensive list of the things you need to buy for your baby. All comments here are based on my experience ha? Im not saying that if this particular brand is good, yun na talaga ang the best. Opinion ko yun and since blog ko ‘to, walang makikialam! But seriously, it pays to ask your other friends din to see what’s best for you and your baby.
So here goes the list!
1.) Newborn Things
-BONNET (3pcs)–> Dont buy that much because you’ll not use it that often. I bought Anika’s bonnets at Baby Rustans for less than 350pesos for 3 pcs. Just be careful if you will use it when your baby sleeps because one time Anika was sleeping with a bonnet on her head and i fell asleep. My mother in law came to the room to check on us and saw that the bonnet was already covering Anika’s eyes! Good thing hindi bumaba until sa nose niya kundi na-suffocate siya! After that, I didnt use it na when she sleeps.
-MITTENS (10pcs)–> they said to buy only 6 pairs but we change Anika’s mittens often because she often put her hands to her face and so nalalagyan ng milk yung mittens.
-SOCKS (6pairs)–> just buy additional socks after one month because the baby socks that are available in the stores like SM are big pa for the newborn feet. I only found newborn socks that fit Anika in Baby Rustans. Medyo expensive pero it will save you the hassle of putting it on all the time (socks keep on falling off their feet!)
-SLEEVELESS SHIRTS WITH RIBBON (10pcs) –> a lot because Anika uses this everyday kasi it’s hot. Also, she drooles and spits milk all over it so we change it often
-SHORT SLEEVES SHIRTS WITH RIBBON (8pcs) –> Anika uses this when she sleeps kasi naka-aircon
-LONG SLEEVES SHIRTS WITH RIBBON (4pcs) –> She uses this sometimes for sleeping or when we go to her doctor’s checkup
**NOTE: Basing on experience, I should have followed Rain’s advice to buy not the shirts with ribbons but the ones with buttons. Its hard to dress up Anika especially when she is crying and I had to tie up pa all the ribbons. They have this ata din at SM Department Stores
-BIB (10pcs) –> for me, its ok to hoard bibs because they get soiled a lot due to feedings and baby spit ups. I first bought Anika’s bibs at Baby Rustans however, kasi nga laging nilalabahan and ina-iron, parang naluluma agad. Wala na akong bib na maganda na dadalhin when we go out. What i did was to buy big and cheap bibs at SM then cute and more expensive bibs at Rustans. At home, I tell girlie to use muna the ones from SM until maubos then saka gamitin yung galing rustans pagwala na. So ayun, may nagagamit si anika na nice bibs when she’s out.
-BURP PADS (5-10pcs) –> this is gamit na gamit din not only for burping your baby but also pamunas for spit ups.
-CLOTH DIAPERS a.k.a LAMPIN (4 dozens) –> you can buy in Baclaran because they say its cheap, 150pesos per dozen. But for non-Baclaranista like me, I bought ours at SM for 180pesos per dozen. It’s advisable to use lampin during the day so that your baby’s bottom can breathe from diapers and prevent them from having rashes. Caution, only use this if you have labandera at home otherwise, good luck in washing so many of them a day!!
-NEWBORN DIAPERS (a lot!) –> buy plenty of these because your newborn poops a lot! Actual just count three seconds after you have changed them, and they will release their follow up poop! That is why it is also advisable to use lampin to save money. I like using Pro-kids or Huggies diapers for Anika. I didnt like using Pampers because naghihimulmol yung material which i hated.
2.) Sleeping Things
-CRIB SHEETS (parang maliit na comforter) 3 sets
-PILLOW (eto yung may lubog sa gitna, perfect pillow for your newborn) 2pcs
-BOLSTER PILLOW (eto yung mga hotdogs) 2 pairs
**NOTE: They have this usually in sets (with crib sheets, pillows and bolster pillow). I suggest you to buy one expensive set (hypoallergenic, 100% cotton plus other eklavu) which costs around 1500 to 2000 pesos then buy 2 sets na cheap lang at SM. It will cost around 500 pesos. Use this na lang as pamalit when the other one is in the laundry.
3.) Bath Things
-BABY TOWEL (3 pcs)
-BATH MAT (1pc) –> you will put baby on this when you are drying them after taking a bath
-BABY TUB (1pc) –> around 300pesos only. No need to buy expensive ones
-TABO (ano nga ulit english ng tabo?!) 1pc –> use one exclusively for bathing baby
-BASIN (1pc) –> small lang, this is where you will mix the hot water with the cold water for bathing. Again, use one exlusively for bathing the baby.
-SHAMPOO / SOAP –> Anika uses Cetaphil (as per her pedia’s advice) but it costs like 600+ pesos for the biggest one. Wowa buys it for her. If you want to use a cheaper one, you can use Johnson and Johnsons Top to Toe wash. Anika uses this as her shampoo because walang amoy yung Cetaphil.
-CONTAINER WITH CAP –> you will use this for the soaked cotton balls that you will use in cleaning your baby’s bottom. I learned this from my brother in law. You put water in it, then soak the cotton balls, seal it and it will be ready to use for cleaning baby. Just remember, separate the soaked cotton balls that you will use for cleaning baby’s poop from the cotton balls that you will use for their other body parts. We use this to lessen the expense in buying the baby wipes (which are a lot more expensive than cotton)
4.) Feeding, Furniture and Other Items
-FEEDING BOTTLES (4-4oz and 2-9oz bottles) –> Siyempre para sosyal din ako, at first, I bought the starter kit of Avent online. It consists of 2-4oz and 2-9oz, a milk storage and a bottle brush. I felt happy with my purchase but after Anika was born, mainis inis ako sa Avent bottle! Milk spill out of the bottle when i shake it (there’s a right way of closing it). I want to throw the bottle especially during the wee hours of making Anika’s milk. Good thing, I discovered Nuby bottles. Aside from the super kyoot bottle, the nipples are made to look like the mother’s so the transition from breastfeeding to bottle is a lot easier.
-CRIB –> Im sure most of the parents to be would choose Graco as their baby’s crib. Well, that is great because one should not compromise the safety of the baby. You can choose the wooden type cribs (just put cushion guards around it) or the play pen ones. We bought ours at Rustan’s and the brand is Jolly. It cost around 4000pesos and we are very happy that we didnt buy and expensive one because Anika rarely sleeps in it.
-BOTTLE STERILIZER –> I bought Chicco sterilizer because it is a lot cheaper than the Avent one. So far, no regrets and okay naman ang performance level niya.
-LIQUID SOAP FOR BOTTLE WASHING –> You can buy that in Chicco. It cost 300pesos only for the big bottle na. Bawal gamitin ang normal dishwashing liquid sa bottles ng baby ha?
-BOTTLE DRYER –> Thanks to my good friend Peachy Ramos, I would not have realized the importance of this until she gave one to me. From the sterilizer, you should let the bottles dry out first before storing it.
-BOTTLE STORAGE –> It should be a container with lid where you can store the clean bottles. It prevents contamination of unused bottles for feeding.
-BREAST PUMP & BREAST PADS –> you can buy this when you go home from the hospital because usually breast milk comes 3 days after delivery. It will save you money if ever you will not produce breast milk pala.
-DIAPER BAG –> Sorry, the only diaper bags i know are Baby Couture and Dwell Studio. Dwell Studio kasi is very expensive kaya I bought two Baby Couture bags na lang. One big bag for overnights and one normal sized one for malling.
-THERMOMETER –> Get the digital one if the hospital doesn’t provide you with the thermometer. Perfect for very praning moms like me.
-LAUNDRY SOAP –> I’ve been told before that we cannot use the ordinary laundry soap for Anika’s clothes. I tried Perwoll and Perla. Perwoll is expensive. Okay na naman pala ang Perla Laundry Soap so that’s the one we use. We save money pa for that.
-BABY STROLLER –> I suggest you buy this just before your baby’s christening. There’s this old wives’ tale that you cannot bring your baby out of the house until after her baptism. And based on experience, i don’t think you will want to take you baby to malls anyway because not only that she will not enjoy it yet, it’s super hassle pa this early. (you can see related blog entry for baby strollers)
-CAR SEAT –> This will be very helpful especially when travelling with your baby (you will take her to her doctor sooner or later). Nakakangalay bitbitin ang baby in car trips especially during traffic hours.
-BABY’S CABINET –> Storage for all her clothes =)
**I may have forgotten to include other items but more or less these are the things that you need to shop for your newborn baby =)
Date: June 5, 2010
Church: Holy Eucharist Church
Reception: Raya Garden Clubhouse
I was nervous in planning Anika’s baptism. I wanted so many things to make our first baby’s official “party” the best one that I feared we might go bankrupt hehehe. It was a lot harder compared to planning our wedding. Weddings i know but Christening? Not.
However, Alvin only gave me a budget so i started working around it. At first, we were eyeing Magallanes Church for the baptism ceremonies. When I went there with Toots, we were informed to get a letter from our parish stating that they are allowing us to have the baptism in another church outside the parish. Sadly, Holy Eucharist Church did not allow us. So without choice, we booked Anika’s baptism there. We just opted for a private baptism and got Father Ariel (Alvin’s friend priest who married us) again to baptize anika. Easy lang the requirements: our marriage certificate, anika’s birth certificate and the list of godparents (with a fee of 20pesos each). Church: CHECK
Next, I went to look for a caterer for the event. I was eyeing Conti’s for their catering services (good food, i tell you) however, their fee was really as in super out of our budget (80k?! Di na lang diba?) I’ll save it na lang for anika’s first birthday hehe! So anyway, my brother in law’s son was baptized a month before Anika. They were saying that their caterer was not that expensive. The food was not that superb pero pwede na for the price so we got Blue Petals Catering (http://www.bluepetalscatering.com/). They were easy to talk to except during the food tasting. Saan ka naman nakakita ng food tasting na 2 viands lang ang pinatikim sa 8 na viands that i chose?! The package that we got was Php 240 / person plus additional one full table set up, mineral water and ice.
The godparents’ candles and wrapping of godparents’ giveaways were d-i-y’ed by me (see related blog post)
Here are some pictures that my hubby took:
These were what Anika wore. From left: her baptism white dress from St. Patrick’s in SM (Php550), white shoes from SM (Php150), white bonnet from Baby by Rustan’s (300+ pesos ata), brown dress gift from my friends in Amsterdam, Sonny & Leah and two piece jumper dress from Debenhams (Php1500)
The beautiful ninangs(from left to right: Bing Wijangco (with baby victoria), Michelle Arnaiz, Nessie Matias, Arch Peachy Ramos, Faye Prado, Atty Vivian Tan, Katie Taylo and Blanche Ramos)
Not in photo: Michelle Pineda-Pastoril, Rain Parumog, Mia San Luis, Barbie Abrogar, Hannah Vargas and Nicole Fonacier
The handsome ninongs (from left to right: Toots Rubio, Cholo Matias, Noel Rubio, Arman Taylo, Dino Taylo, Clint Erastain (Hannah’s fiance), Paul Sombrero, Jason Gonzaga, TJ Taylo, Abbey Polintan, Alfred Retazo
Not in photo: Ernel Gonzaga and Archie Polintan
Cupcake tower, a gift from Ninang Hannah.
I found their site popping from my facebook newsfeed so i decided to looked it up. I got it from French Kiss Pastries. They were also easy to talk to and was very flexible with the design and colors that i wanted. You can check out their website at http://www.frenchkisspastries.com
The cupcakes cost from 50pesos to 60pesos a piece depending on the design, plus the delivery charge and plus the cupcake stand. I ordered 50 pieces of their cupcakes in three flavors: mocha, vanila and chocolate =)
PLANNING A CHRISTENING EVENT LEARNINGS BY ME:
1.) Do-It-Yourself some of the things you will be using for the event. For a lazy person like me, it was very fulfilling!
3.) Do not rely on RSVP. Seriously. We paid for the 100person catered buffet. We invited 140 guests. 120 RSVP-ed. Still, only like 70-80 people came!! Sayang talaga all the left-over food. I asked pa my mom to bring additional bilaos of pancit and siomais. After the event, there were 4 bilaos left!! Imagine I was asking our guests to take home not only ulams but isang bilao talaga of pancit!! Hay! Now i know na talaga. I was over estimated anika’s guests kasi because before i always under estimate my birthday guests and my Tita Judith gets mad at me because she cram-cooks (cramming the cooking hehe) the food kasi super daming tao pumupunta. Like i tell her, expect 30 guests then mga 70 ang pupunta. Ganun. So anyways, charge to learnings.
4.) Get quality catered food that your mom approves. Though the guests weren’t complaining, my mom (who is so meticulous with party food) kept on commenting that we should have gotten a better caterer. Don’t worry Wowa, eh di next time, sagot mo na yung caterer haha!
5.) DO NOT FORGET THE SOUND SYSTEM. Period.
6.) Plan how you will beautify yourself (read: go to the parlor) beforehand and not on the day. Ayan, nalimutan ko tuloy ang sound system dahil inuna ko magpa-blow dry!
7.) Hire a professional photographer. No offense to my hubby (who appointed himself to be the event photographer), but after the event and you see the pictures, you will realize that it is really sulit to hire a photographer. Since Alvin was participating in the baptism rites and had to entertain some of the guests, there were a lot of things and people that he forgot to take pictures of. Plus it’s better for both of you to just relax and mingle with the people on these kinds of events.
8.) Search the internet for ideas. Canvas the prices. Ask for recommendations from your other mommy friends
I was browsing through my friend Minnie Tapawan-Biscocho’s fb photos of her daughter, Andi, when i saw a picture where Andi (5 months then) was reading (or rather looking) a book. I asked Minnie what books were they and she said those were Touch and Feel Books by Brainy Baby.
Siyempre inggiterang frog ako, I want Anika also as early as 5 months to be interested in books na. So I went to Powerbooks to look for this Brainy Baby books. Sadly however, Powerbooks only have audio/video eklavu of Brainy Baby. And so, i just browsed the baby books na lang and lo and behold, i discovered DWELL STUDIO BOOKS!!
I was surprised because I thought Dwell Studio only has home products such as beddings, home decors, furniture and accessories. But no, they also have baby books!! These books feature bold colors and charming shapes which are perfect even for babies as young as 5 months old. They teach (or at least familiarize) babies with different colors, textures, numbers, animals and things. They have six different kinds of books:
-Touch & Feel Farm Book
-Touch & Feel Town Book
-What Colors? Book
I also thought that this is a great way to spend some of Anika’s monetary gifts from her Christening last Saturday. And so in Powerbooks of Greenbelt 4 and I shopped happy again but this time for baby books. Not all of the books were available though kaya I bought na lang all the available ones. I bought the Touch and Feel books (Town and Farm), Look and Count Books!
Here they are:
I highly recommend talaga these books. I learned from somewhere that it is best not to expose babies first in televisions (it’s bad for their eyes). It is best to give them books muna. Remember mommies and daddies, it would be nice if your kids grow up loving to read. So many information they can learn in books. And in the long run, it improves their vocabulary too!
First of all, I want to let everyone know that I am a very impatient person. I do not like Do-It-Yourself things. I’d rather buy them in stores or pay someone to do it. But things changed now. Maybe all these are just effects of motherhood to me or i was just bored, period.
So anyway, I was inspired by my friend Minnie Tapawan-Biscocho’s personalized baby’s candle. I, together with my bestfriend (and kumare) Peachy, went to the mall and bought the materials. You will need:
1.) Candles depending on what size you want (remember, you will only be using this for like 5 minutes in the actual baptism rites)
2.) Ribbons (in my case, i bought brown ribbon to contrast with the pink tool)
3.) Bear decors (I got this at the Baking section of SM Home) -50pesos a set
4.) Glue gun with glue stick (duh!)
5.) Tool (bought at the National Bookstore) -cheap lang din
What you do is you cut your desired length of tool to make a ribbon. Tie it around the candle. Then cut and tie the brow ribbon over the tool ribbon. Fix so that it will look like the brown ribbon is on top of the tool ribbon. Get one bear and glue it in the middle of the brown ribbon and tada!!!
Pretty and simple huh?
So I made 25 pieces of them. Super patience lang talaga. I placed them all in a box so that i can just bring this box to the church.
Next, I kept on thinking what to give to Anika’s Ninongs and Ninangs. I do not like to give out figurines.. It’s sooo…. ummm…. impersonal and outdated. So, I went to Glorietta and to the store called Printed Matter and had personalized notepads made. You’d be surprised because it’s very cheap. It’s like 50 pesos a piece! They look like these:
To wrap them you will need:
1.) Japanese paper (i bought pink ones for the cover and white for the filler inside)
2.) a box
3.) Ribbons (pink and brown)
4.) Clear tape
5.) Some left over tool
First you put the white japanese paper in side the box together with the notepad. Then using the whole pink japanese paper, meaning make two layers of it, wrap the box with it. Cut and tape the brown ribbon around the upper portion of the box. Then cut and tie the tool around the brown ribbon to make a tool ribbon. Next, cut a small piece (but thicker) pink ribbon around the tool ribbon and viola!
I used post its for the name tags. 50 pesos only for the whole pad.
With this, we were able to kikay-up the candles and souvenirs without much cost.
Alvin very happy.
Me also very happy.
Thank you Wowa (my mom) for buying Anika her Silver Cross stroller! We bought this at the Youj&Me store at Greenbelt 5. Actually, kilala na ako ni Ate (the branch manager). Buntis pa lang kasi ako, punta na ko ng punta dun sa store nila eh! So when she saw us enter with my mom, ayun, kinuha niya na agad sa storage nila yung stroller na itech =) It’s really so pretty and easy to use! I can carry Anika in one arm then fold the stroller using my other arm and put it in the car. Very convenient! Yun lang, when Anika goes to Asian Hospital for her checkups, ang daming kaparehas na stroller. Maybe it just shows na super ganda talaga nung nabili namin. Madami din bumibili =)
When we got home after buying the stroller, we immediately put Anika in it! At nagenjoy naman ang loka loka! Feel na feel niya! She looked like this:
She wasn’t crying so tinulak tulak namin siya around the room.
Tatay & Nanay: Weeeeeeeeee!!!!
Nanay: Babe, gamitin mo na lang paa mo para di ka mapagod. Front then backwards na lang..
After 2 minutes..
Anika threw up ng bonggang bongga! As in todo at may trajectory pa!!!
We panicked! I was trying to pull her out kaso naka-fasten ang belt niya.
Nana: Babe, bilis tanggalin mo na yung belt!! Di tumitigil sumuka!!
Alvin: Teka!!! (With matching, nanginginig pa na hands while unfastening the safety belt)
This was her after she threw up:
Sorry baby, super na-excite lang kami hehehe!