I am happy when my blog readers tell me that they buy the things that they saw here in my blog that I use.
That means kasi I’m becoming an influential person.
Gusto ko yun kasi with that, I know, mas marami akong pwedeng ma-influence to help the less fortunate. Meaning, I can influence you to help me help other less fortunate people. Ganern.
I feel that I am blessed. Wag na nating i-hashtag dahil gasgas na gasgas na yan. But when I think about it, I am very happy already because (knock on wood) wala naman sa amin ang may sakit. We are able to eat at least 3 times a day. We are able to send Anika to one of the best schools in the country. We have shelter and clothes. There are so many things to be thankful for. Kaya naman, one night, when Alvin shared his anxieties about our finances, sabi ko sa kanya, we are okay. We have savings. May trabaho kami. Kailangan lang talaga i-maintain and wag pumetiks. Hindi ko naman hinahangad maging like super yaman levelz. Though pagmananalo ako sa lotto, hindi ko din naman tatanggihan yan. Hindi naman ako tanga. But I told Alvin that at this point, what we should be thinking about is how to help other people na. Di ba, mga bakla? Share the blessings.
Apart from the less fortunate, by being an influencer, I am also able to help other Filipina mompreneurs with their businesses. Kaya talaga pagmommy na may business, hindi ko matanggihan i-advertise (after I try their products of course). And when I like them, talagang todo promote ako. Mahirap maging Nanay. We all know that. Kaya mas mahirap maging mompreneur. Imagine how a mompreneur juggle all the things that she has to do everyday.
Naisip ko lang lahat yan because I recently received a lot of emails and messages that they started buying Cole Vintage clothes because of me.
Ganda naman talaga kasi their dresses.
One request that I have is that when you buy from like Cole Vintage, please let them know that you heard them from me. Para naman hindi nila isipin na iniimbento ko lang lahat ng ito.
Anyway, intro lang yan. That is really not my kwento.
Around two weeks ago, Anika was chosen to be the representative of their class for the Isahang Pagkukwento Contest. We practiced and practiced for it. Si Alvin mostly yung nagturo.
If you are following me in Instagram and Facebook, I posted there how Anika practiced for her Isahang Pagkukwento. Magaling and maganda. May actions, proper diction and malakas yung boses niya.
On the day of the contest, I brought her to school. Nag-one last rundown pa kami. It was perfect.
That night, when I got home, kinamusta ko.
ME: Anika, how was the contest?
ANIKA: I did it kaso not the way we practiced.
ANIKA: I was shy eh.
ME: Can you do it again pero like how you did it kanina?
She recited the story again.
However, unlike the one we practiced, she had her head bowed down all the time, her hand clasped behind her and her voice was very soft. Wala. Malayo dun sa napanood niyo sa IG and FB ko.
After she finished, I didn’t say anything. Samantalang si Alvin,
ALVIN: Wow! Very good! That was very nice! Good job Anika! Good job!
Alvin looked at me as if to say gayahin ko siya.
It’s not right.
No. No. No.
ME: Anika, can I talk to you? Alone?
Alvin shot me again a look.
ALVIN: Wag mong pagalitan.
Hindi ko papagalitan. Pero hindi ko din kukunsintihin. Why would I tell her she did a good job eh obviously she didn’t naman? It’s wrong. It’s wrong to over-praise your kids. It’s especially wrong to tell them that they did a good job at something na miski sila alam nila na hindi. She might carry that attitude until she grows older. Siya din ang mahihirapan someday. Why give her false praises?
Hindi ko papalagpasin ito.
I brought Anika to her room because Alvin didn’t want to leave our room.
I showed her the video that I took that I posted in IG. The one where she was practicing the Isahang Pagkukwento with gusto.
ME: Can you see the difference between that one and the one that you did in school kanina?
ME: Would you agree with me that you didn’t do a good job kanina sa school compared to what you really can do?
ANIKA: Yes Nanay.
ME: Why didn’t you do it like how we practiced?
ANIKA: I was shy. I was the very first one to do it and I was shy.
Okay. I understand.
Nevertheless, I explained to her that I wasn’t happy with what she did. I am proud that she was her class representative but I told her that I know that she could have done better.
She agreed naman with me.
I also told her that it doesn’t make me love her any less. Love na love ko siya kaya I want her to do her best lagi. I don’t care if she wins or loses the contest. What matters to me is that she did her best.
Does that make me a Tiger Mom?
For me hindi. I just cannot bring myself to give false praises.
Hindi yun magiging maganda for her ego and for how she will perceive what a good job is.
What do you mommies think?