Yesterday, Alvin and I were supposed to re-enact our highschool dates. Dinner at a fastfood restaurant and then movie after. So I reserved our Eclipse tickets online at Sureseats. I knew the ticket queue will be super long that day and I was soo right! With sureseats, I got our tickets in 5 minutes.
However, I learned through facebook that Alvin’s cousin Katie and her boyfriend Paolo was in Makati also. They watched the afternoon screening of Eclipse. I am close to Alvin’s cousins and I am in love with them all. I am particularly close to Katie because she was the one I kept in touch with during those times when Alvin & I had our significant others. So, I was so happy when makakapagdouble date kaming apat!.
Before we met, I was so hungry that I kept on changing my mind where to eat. I was choosing between Dad’s Eat All You Can Merienda Buffet (for less than Php200 you’d have unlimited Filipino merienda and drinks) or Max’s Eat All You Can Chicken (for Php 165 only) or North Park (a Chinese Restaurant).
Yeah, Im on a diet pero tomorrow na lang. Hahaha! I freaking need to diet i swear! Whenever I go out of Mango or Zara’s dressing rooms, ang init ng ulo ko! (Im hot headed!) I look ugly in their clothes. Sa mannequin ang ganda then pagsinukat ko, it’s ugly na! Kamote!
Anyways, positive thoughts! Food na lang! Haha!
We ate at North Park of Glorietta 5. It was sulit because we were all full and the bill was cheap! Here are what I ordered: (Ofcourse, over ordered na naman ako! We wasn’t able to finish everything!)
Last Friday, Alvin and I were on our way to the mall to check out the Zara sale when I suddenly felt really hungry. We were thinking to eat somewhere cheap first (READ: Total bill must not exceed Php300), then proceed to shop.
On our way, after passing by Don Bosco School in Pasong Tamo, we came across Amici restaurant. I told Alvin that I have always wanted to try to eat there but never had a chance because the restaurant has no parking space. You have to park inside the Don Bosco Church compound or inside Walter Mart then walk to the restaurant.
Thank God for my hubby who suggested we try eating at Amici since we are already in the area. We parked inside the church’s compound.
Amici serves salads, apetizers, pizza and various pastas. And the restaurant pala is a self service resto. You pay upon order then the kind Amici people will bring your order to your table.
I’ll photo-narrate our experience ayt?
So far, I haven’t written anything about Philippine politics. I did it deliberately because plainly, I do not like politics. It’s boring. It’s nasty. It’s full of BH. However, I write this because there are some things I want to get out of my chest with regard to our newly inaugurated country president. So bear with me.
Last June 30 was the inauguration of the Philippines’ 15th president, Noynoy Aquino (more commonly known now as PNoy). Im not a fan. I feel that having famous parents do not make one an automatic qualified president. So far, as an ex-Senator, there wasn’t any fabulous law that he passed nor has he done anything extra ordinary for the country. I felt he won because he has Philippine hero for a father and a Philippine icon and an ex-president for a mother. For a country whose people watch numerous telenovelas every single night, he may be their salvation. Like father, like mother, like son. Hopefully.
Anyways, I watched the telecast not because I like Noynoy but because I wanted to see all the fabulous outfits of the attendees and also to see the now former president Gloria Arroyo and PNoy’s “plastikan” on air. (Im sorry, I do not know the english word for that right now)
It didn’t disappoint. I (together with the rest of the world) saw how the former president made deadma the incoming president all throughout the program (except for the really plastic handshake and smiles that they were required to do). I don’t blame her. She will be investigated regarding tons of things once Noynoy is president.
Anyways, for his inaugural speech, I was impressed. You can read it here. No more corruption. No more power tripping. An honest and simple government. Okay good. I hope he stays true to what he said. We will see.
I am happy he banned everyone to use a wang-wang. A wang-wang is a Filipino slang for the car siren usually used by VIPs and emergency vehicles such as ambulances. This made me happy. I hate it when there are people who use these sirens and act like kings of the road.
The weird thing here is apart from declining to use the official presidential sedan, he also declined to use the siren (which by law he is entitled to use), when he goes out of the palace. He wanted to set an example, he said. He also doesn’t stop at stoplights on their way to appointments. Now that is crazy.
I know he wants to set an example but not only that he is endangering himself but also he is endangering especially all his presidential guards and members of the convoy. They are all out there like sitting ducks waiting to be shot. Seriously. Wanting to die for your country is one thing but taking other people with you is just not right. His presidential guards and other members of his convoy have families too. They’d be devastated to lose their loved one because their boss just wanted to prove a point. He should know that.
Stopping at traffic lights when you are president is a crazy idea. Safety issues. How could you maximize your service for your countrymen if you’d be ambushed early?! Seriously. Also, as the country’s representative, you shouldn’t be late. Last Friday, because of traffic, he was an hour late for a turnover rites at Camp Aguinaldo. Imagine all those military people standing under the heat of the sun for an additional one hour because the president didn’t wake up early enough and did not use a siren and participated in the Metro Manila rush hour traffic. Crazy.
Anyhow, I hopes he reconsider his use of siren. He can ban all others but he NEEDS to use one. I dont think they will take that against him, right?
If you noticed, I don’t compose my blog entries in complete english. I want kasi to be able my readers to read the stories like how I would tell it to them in person. It gives a more personal touch and Im able to use my real expressions right?
However, I realized it will be also good if my friends and family abroad could also understand what Im talking about. Especially my mommy cousin in the states, Ate Cathy, who’s a super mom by the way! =) The readers would be able to learn more and benefit from their opinions and inputs based on their experiences, divah?! (right?)
So aside from my blog signature which you can see below =p, English will be the main languange content but hopefully still maintain the blog’s personal feel.
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Thanks so much for all the love and support guys. I hope I can continue to find interesting things and chikas (gossip) to share with y’all!!!
Love love love!!!
Praning is a Tagalong slang for PARANOID.
I write this blog because I was nagtataka why my baby Anika has a full time yaya and yet I find myself super puyat pa din every day.
You see, I read somewhere that even if you and your husband have a baby already, it is advisable that both of you still sleep together in the same bed. When Anika was just a little over a month old, we tried sleeping beside her with me in the middle. But, I wasn’t able to sleep well because Alvin kept on turning (and twisting!). I learned the next day that hindi pala siya mapakali because he was afraid that we would crush Anika while we sleep. So after that, Alvin slept on a mat on the floor while I sleep beside Anika on our bed.
Now that Im already working, I cannot wake up 3x a night everyday anymore because I didnt want to go to work looking like a zombie. And so our sleeping arrangement changed again. Alvin sleeps on the mat with me beside him (which is important nga daw, husband and wife sleeping on the same bed lagi) and Anika sleeps with Girlie on our bed. Okay na dapat diba?
But… Every time i feel Anika twitches or cry just a little bit, I am jolted awake. Mother instincts. Mother insticts also makes me lack sleep but I am not complaining. Praning talaga ako eh.
Here are more instances that shows how praning I am:
1.) Even before Anika was born, I unintentionally wake up in the middle of the night and check if Alvin is still breathing. I know, ang morbid ko. But do you know that “bangungot” often happens to guys more than to girls? Lalo na dun sa mga kumakain before they sleep. When I don’t see Alvin’s chest rising (like pagnakadapa siya), I poke him till he moves, seriously.
2.) Now that we have Anika, my “ka-praningan” doubled. I also wake up in the middle of the night to see if she’s breathing also. Promise! Ay guys, have you heard of SIDS? SIDS is an acronym of Sudden Infant Death Syndrom. I’ve read all about it in What To Expect In The First Year book. It affects newborn to 6 month old babies. Eto yung bigla na lang hihinto yung breathing ng baby and they die. They haven’t found the exact cause of these sudden death. So imagine how praning I am di ba?! I will blog more about this in detail soon so that well informed din ang mga future mommies out there. Alangan naman ako lang ang praning diba? Gagawin ko din kayong praning. Joke! Haha! No seriously, it is important to know more about SIDS. In the book, they have suggestions how to prevent this so I’ll share them to you too.
3.) I do not trust anyone to prepare Anika’s tulugan (or where she will sleep). I clean the bed every night. I do not want to have insects lalo na ants to be lurking around. I always think na baka pumasok sa ears ng baby ko which is very bad. I make pagpag the bed, her blankets and the pillow. That’ how praning I am.
4.) I call Girlie 10 thousand times a day when I’m at work. I stopped lang after this conversation
Me: Girlie, kamusta si Anika.
Girlie: Tulog pa din po. (or gising po or dumedede po or naglalaro laro lang po or pinapatulog ko po)
Me: Okay, matulog ka din ha para hindi ka puyat
This goes on every phone call until one time..
Me: Girlie, ano ginagawa ni Anika?
Girlie: Tulog pa din po.
Me: Okay, matulog ka din ha para di ka puyat.
Girlie: Hindi Ate, okay lang..
Me: O bakit?! Matulog ka! Masama yan napupuyat ka!
Girlie: Eh Ate, tawag ka po kasi ng tawag eh, hindi po ako makatulog.
Okaaayy.. So, I lessened my calls na lang. Pero before I leave the house, I make sure Girlie has load para she can call me pagmay emergencies (which I hope wala).
5.) I talk to Alvin about our game plan if ever magkaron ng magnanakaw na gusto pumasok sa bahay during the day pagwala kami. Girlie will lock the door, call me and I will call the baranggay, Alfred or Abbey, Alvin’s dad and my mom (Mama can have someone from the Philippine National Police arrive at our house in minutes! Seriously.). That’s the game plan.
6.) I started saving money. Before I got married, come sweldo time, ubos ang laman ng ATM ko. Now, especially Anika’s here na, I get uneasy if our money in our bank dips lower than a certain amount. You’ll never know when you’ll need it eh.
7.) Lastly, before I was brought to the hospital to give birth, I wrote Alvin a letter in case I died in the process of giving birth. Don’t laugh or worse think that Im really morbid! Ang dami kong napapanood sa sine na ganyan ha! Tpos yung stepmother sinasalbahe yung stepdaughter niya (Cinderella much?!). Siyempre, I didn’t want that to happen to Anika. Grabe, that was the most painful letter that I have ever written. I was crying the whole time. I was making bilin to Alvin everything from how much Im going to miss him to pano papalakihin si Anika. Grabe, praning ako and loka loka pa! Alvin didn’t get to read the letter (obviously) and until now, hindi niya alam kung nasan yun. I only made bilin the letter that time to Faye (my cousin and the closest i have to a sister) which extracted a “Ate, sira ulo ka talaga!” from her.
Praning diba?! And motherhood aggravated it more. But Im okay. I’ve been like this for the longest time and I can deal with it. Alvin knows that I am like this and he deals with it to. Nagalit lang siya one time nung sinabi ko, “Babe, kanino natin ibibilin si Anika in case we die young?”. But knowing Anika has 15 godmothers and 10 godfathers plus both our families pa, I feel kampante more or less but that doesn’t stop me from praying every single night like this:
“Lord, thank you for all the blessing we have received and will be receiving from you. Please keep Alvin and Anika healthy and safe all the time. Wag niyo po sana sila kukunin sakin. If ever talagang may kukunin ka, ako na lang po muna kasi I cannot live without either of them po. Please po. Amen”
Praning much talaga diba?!
This past year has been a rollercoaster ride for me. Just last year around this month, we were doing last minute planning for our wedding which we planned for 12 months. Then while all my girlfriends were shrieking and almost peeing in their panties, scared shitless of the stripper’s wang in my bridal shower, I was busy throwing up in the toilet. The next day, I pee’ed on a stick and learned I was pregnant. Two weeks after that, I married the man I have been waiting for for 15 years. Seven months after that, I was in the labor room of Manila Doctors Hospital. Thirty six hours after, the most beautiful baby girl was born and we named her Anika Summer. Two months after, she was baptized to the Christian world.
After all these, I said to myself, I have to write a blog of the things I learned. Not just to document it and so I have something to look back to but also hopefully, to help out other girls out there.
THINGS I LEARNED DURING MY PREGNANCY & AFTER HAVING A BABY:
1.) It is okay to feel scared after you find out you are pregnant. Just like my bestfriend Michelle Arnaiz said to my Coach Vita during Anika’s baptism, “Ms. Vita, akalain mo may anak na si Fleur eh parang dati lang, sarili niya di pa niya nga kayang alagaan.” It’s true. That’s the same thing I thought when I found out. How will take care of a baby while I cannot even take care of myself!? But, God knows better. Walang ibibigay si God sayo nang hindi ka ready. Taking care of your baby will come naturally.
2.) Kahit gano ka-daming cocoa butter ang ilagay mo, if you will have stretch marks after your pregnancy, you will have them. Seriously.
3.) Before, I thought arte lang ang craving for weird food but I proved it wrong. A pregnant girl’s food taste is super weird during this period hypothetically because of the changing chemicals inside her body which makes her eat food she doesn’t normally eat. Like me, I loved shrimps before but I didnt like eating them when I was pregnant. I hated eating eggplant but I was asking for them when I was pregnant.
4.) Savor the remaining days when it’s only you and your hubby in your lives. I got this advice from my volleyball teammate, Neome and it’s so true. A baby changes everything. Kaya tama nga yung sabi nila na it’s best to have a baby a year or two after getting married. You need to enjoy the time when there’s only you and him because the next time this will happen is when all of your kids have graduated and moved out of your house. You will be all wrinkled up by then.
5.) Your priorities will change. No joke.
6.) It is okay to let go, cry and be mad once in a while. Anika was around two weeks that time when she was crying so much in the middle of the night. Alvin was sleeping because he has work the next day. I was so puyat having only 2 hours of sleep every night for two weeks and my cesarian wound was hurting so bad. I was trying to stop Anika’s cries by carrying her and dancing around the room. Then I found out that she pooped so I had to change her. In the middle of my cleaning her butt, she pooped again this time with a trajectory which landed on my arm and on the changing table. She was wailing again and she got poop in her legs, arm and face. Ginawa niyang body mask ang tae niya! I was already bawling by this time. Alvin woke (at last) and asked what’s wrong. I was crying and screaming na hirap na hirap na ako and tae was all over the place. Alvin got up and cleaned Anika while I sat beside him still crying and saying “nakakainis na talaga yan!!”. Alvin cradled Anika (as if to protect her from her crazy mom!) and said, “Bata lang naman yan. She doesn’t know what she’s doing yet.” The situation and what he said made me cry more and storm out of the room. I fell asleep crying on our sofa downstairs. It’s okay to act crazy sometime. You deserve it once in a while. Oh and I said sorry to Anika the morning after hehe.
7.) Go ahead and shop. Especially if this is your first baby, GOW! Do not mind those people who keeps on telling you to buy practical things. It’s your first baby. Your first REAL doll. Be practical in other things for the meantime. If you have the means, go ahead and indulge yourself. Your baby deserves the best, the money doesn’t come from them so girl, go and buy that expensive crib/stroller/uber cute dress you have been eyeing while you were still pregnant!!!
8.) Once you get married, for better or worse is so true. Everyday, its just me and Alvin who help each other (oh sorry, ofcourse Girlie also). It feels good na wala kaming inaasahang ibang tao. Although, hindi ako magpapakaplastic, donations are very welcome (Thanks Wowa and Lola for buying Anika things and sending ulam every now and then) but sa pangkahalatan, wala kaming inaasahang ibang tao. Di naman sa pangaano pero one time, Alvin gave me his salary and napunta lang lahat sa sweldo ni Girlie and ni Elvie (my other househelp). Hinati ko yung natirang 1k, 500 for alvin and 500 for me. We just laughed it off. Don’t get us wrong, I spend sleepless nights din talaga kasi I get kabado kasi sometimes I dont know where to get panggastos the next month. Pero sa awa ng Diyos, we always find ways to pay for our bills. Kaysa humingi sa parents ko or parents niya (which Alvin abhors me from doing, he will get really really mad!), we look for “rackets”. Do you know that the reason why muntikan ako manganak nung January is because sa kakaraket ko?! But like what they say, naguumpisa pa lang kami and talagang you really have to start somewhere. The important thing here is rather than we fight, we talk thing out and these things make us closer as husband and wife.
9.) Pray. During my dalaga days, I wasn’t a very prayerful person. I go to church because magagalit si Mama if we dont go with her during sundays. I pray every night because takot ako magkanightmares. But when I got pregnant, Alvin and I found ourselves praying often and saying the rosary at least once a week. We wanted so much for Anika to be born healthy and normal that we turned to Him for help and we haven’t stopped praying since. We thank Him for the blessings we receive and we ask help for the problems that we encounter. I tell you, if you really turn to Him, He will definitely take care of you.
10.) Be prepared to fall in love. I have always been a “tamang hinalang” person so it’s not easy for me to love someone right away and unconditionally. But when I saw Anika, totoo pala ang love at first sight. I havent met anyone who I love this much. It’s a love like nothing I have felt before. Sobra siya dami na it’s so overwhelming. I swear to myself to be the best mother I can be for her and to take care of her until I die.
The book now that I cannot live without is What To Expect in the First Year which is a sequel to the What to Expect When You’re Expecting.
Obviously, I bought agad the book because I was so happy with the first one. It has super comprehensive information from Anika’s birth until she reaches 12 months. Like the first book, it devotes a chapter to every month of your baby’s first year.
You will learn about the milestones your child may be reaching during that month, what to expect during your scheduled doctor’s visit and have answers to almost all your concerns and tips for your baby.
This book is literally my bible nowadays. Its perfect especially if this is your first baby and you don’t have any elders living with you. It taught me to decode the different cries of the baby, how to burp her, decoding the different poops (super helpful), how to handle a colicky baby and a lot more.
You can just imagine me reaching for this book in the middle of the night, cramming to read why Anika wouldn’t stop crying. It is also through this book where I learned how to bathe her, dress her (di pala dapat balot na balot) and how to know if she has fever (temperature of 37degrees and above). I leared that pacifiers are okay to use as long as you break the habit in a considerable time preiod. Most importantly, I learned about SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). Although experts are yet to determine the exact cause of SIDS among babies, they have helpful tips to lessen the risk.
For first time parents, I strongly suggest you invest in buying this book. Hindi talaga kayo magsisisi. If you are like me na gusto agad may explanation about what’s happening sa baby ko, this book is definitely for you =)