I often hear girls saying na depressed daw sila. When I eavesdrop further (sorry), depressed daw sila because they can’t find anything to wear that day or depressed daw sila because hindi daw sila pinapansin ni churva eklaver.
Depressed agad? Hindi ba pwedeng, sad muna?
Ladies, depression is a mental illness. It is not an emotion. You will not want to be depressed, believe me. Isusumpa niyo yung feeling. Sadness is an emotion. It’s okay to be sad. It is not normal if you do not feel or have never felt sadness in your life. So malamang if you are still functioning very well physically, emotionally and mentally, malamang sad ka lang. You are not depressed. If you are depressed, you need to seek help immediately otherwise, it will worsen. It can take your life too, if not treated.
Here are some of the symptoms of depression from the American Psychiatric Association Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. I got it from this website.
- feeling depressed throughout each day on most or all days
- lack of interest and enjoyment in activities you used to find pleasurable
- trouble sleeping, or sleeping too much
- trouble eating, or eating too much, coupled with weight gain or weight loss
- irritability, restlessness, or agitation
- extreme fatigue
- unwarranted or exaggerated feelings of guilt or worthlessness
- inability to concentrate or make decisions
- suicidal thoughts or actions, or thinking a lot about death and dying
Sa mga clueless until now, lemme repeat it, there are a lot of risk factors for depression. From the same website, I shall repost the list here:
- early childhood or teenage trauma
- inability to cope with a devastating life event, such as the death of a child or spouse, or any situation that causes extreme levels of pain
- low self-esteem
- family history of mental illness, including bipolar disorder or depression
- history of substance abuse, including drugs and alcohol
- lack of family or community acceptance for identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT).
- trouble adjusting to a medical condition, such as cancer, stroke, chronic pain, or heart disease
- trouble adjusting to body changes due to catastrophic injury, such as loss of limbs, or paralysis
- history of prior mental health disorders, including anorexia, bulimia, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or anxiety disorder
- lack of a support system, such as friends, family, or coworkers
Depression also may be a side effect of some medicines: meds that reduce your blood pressure (beta blockers), meds that provide relief from swelling, redness, itching, and allergic reactions (corticosteroids), hormonal meds and meds that treats high cholesterol (statins).
Minsan din, walang trigger. Like mine before. I was happy and I didn’t have any problems. Then BAM! Nagkadepression ako.
Malalaman mo if you should seek treatment already if you are feeling extreme sadness, or if you are feeling the 9 symptoms in the first list I showed you, for more than two weeks na. Ayan, hindi na talaga healthy yan. Best to see a specialist immediately. They will counsel you and give you suggestions on the changes you can do in your life that can help you overcome depression. One of the best suggestions out there is to simplify your life in the best way you can. Hindi kailangan maging complicated. Hindi kailangang sobrang busy. Hindi kailangang stressful. Manage your expectations. And then pray.
If you have a loved one or know someone who says they have depression, utang na loob, wag niyong sasabihan ng “Wala yan!” or “Lilipas din yan.” or worse, “Drama mo lang yan.”. Gusto kong suntukin yung mga taong ganyan, promise. I’ve said it a million times. Mental illnesses are very hard to explain to people who do not have it. Ang pangit naman sabihin na sana meron din kayo para ma-gets niyo yung may mga ganito, di ba? What you can do is to read more about it. Educate yourselves about it. Be there for your loved one.
If wala kayong time gawin yun, then shut the hell up. You might be able to save a life.
Bow.
References:
https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/depression-vs-sadness#takeaway
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201510/the-important-difference-between-sadness-and-depression
Thank you for this article Ms. Fleur ❤
You’re welcome!
what are some example of early childhood or teenage trauma?
Iba iba eh.. separation of parents, death of a loved one (relative or boyfriend maybe), bullying, accidents, molestation.. ganun..
Question Mommy Fleur. What if the person suffering from it is in denial? How do you deal with it?
Naku yun lang. First step kasi is acceptance or acknowledgement eh. Madaming taong ganyan because mental illness is still halos taboo here in our country. A lot of people still do not believe in it kasi feeling nila may “topak” sila if they acknowledge it. Kau-kausap lang siguro ang solution sa kanya. Then prayers too.
walang naniniwala na depressed ako. kaya ginagawa ko nagsusulat ako sa notebook ng mga gusto ko sabihin. yun solution ko. kaso minsan hindi n maganda nasusulat ko.
As long as you have an outlet.. please email me if you need someone to talk to: mommyfleur@yahoo.com