My Letter About Boys For Anika

To tell you the truth, I have been following the Vhong (lekat kang H ka), Deniece and Cedric news since it started. A lot of people are greatly affected by it. Imagine, nawala ang attention kay Napoles because of that. And sa dami dami ng problema sa mundong ito, Mar Roxas talagang took time pa to meet with Vhong’s manager and lawyer.

Anuvah?

We can’t blame them though. Halos buong mundo nakatutok and nakasubaybay on how this will all end. Vhong (I’m really starting to get annoyed with the H) appears on national television every freaking day on a very popular TV show na nagpapasaya ng wagas sa madaming tao. Hurt him and for sure magaaklas talaga ang madlang people. I don’t know why Cedric and his gang would think that they would get away with this.

Kamote.

Anyways, I’m not writing here because of that. As a mother who has a daughter, I’m very worried about the men that Anika will meet in the future. With that, please allow me this letter that I wish Anika would be able to read when the right time comes.

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Dearest Anika,

Back in 2014, a scandal happened between this well loved TV show host, model wannabe and a rich businessman. Paki google na lang anak ang details because the plot is too complicated for me to detail here.

Anyway, in the middle of all these, I can’t help but to worry about you. For sure you will meet a lot of boys while growing up. Some of those will be nice but the others for sure hindi. I pray that by that time, your Tatay and I have already instilled in you proper values so you can decide on your own what is right from what is wrong.

For the meantime, habang kaya ko pang maalala, I will tell you here the different kinds of men I have encountered before I married your Tatay. I hope after you read about them, maging aware ka and somehow, may matutunan.

Here are the men you should stay away from:

The Chickboy Na Jock. At first you will notice this guy kasi ang lakas ng dating. Ang pogi. Magaling sa basketball. Ang sweet. The problem is sweet din siya sa lahat ng girls. Do not settle with this guy. Let him go with caution. Bakit kamo?  He will know how to make you suyo back. Forte niya kasi yun. Say no and mean it. I-basted yan.

The Boy Next Door Na Duwag. May nanligaw sa akin na ganyan dati. Ang bait. He always offers to walk me home. Makulit so I agreed after ilang offers niya. While we were walking home, a stray dog started viciously barking at us. Akalain mong pinangharang ako sa aso?! Basted.

The Guy With The Surname. This guy asked me out on a date. He was from the rival school that we always play against. He was mabait naman so I agreed. I learned from my friends na famous ang surname niya. He belonged to a wealthy and influential clan. Looks promising. However, during the first date, he asked if we can split the bill. Okay lang sana eh pero down to the centavo talaga. As in tinanong niya kung may 25 cents ako. Promise. Wowa told me to give him a chance kasi baka ganyan na daw talaga ang panahon ngayon. I did. We went to see a movie. While we were queuing for tickets, wala daw siyang barya so abono muna ako. After buying the tickets, we bought food (meaning: he went and bought his own food while I had no choice but to buy my own as well). So nagka-“barya” na siya di ba? While we were seated inside the movie house, nagkukwenta ang lolo niyo ng hatian namin sa tickets. As in binibigyan niya ako ng tig-pa-five peso coin. Ayoko na after that. Basted na yan.

Anak, remember this rule. If a guy asks you out on a date, he SHOULD shoulder the expenses at least for the meal man lang. Siya nag-aya eh. Wag kang makihati.

The Sweet Pero Paasa Guy. He calls everyday. He’s super sweet and malambing. While you guys are talking on the phone at 11pm, you mention that you feel like eating siomai that time. Thirty minutes after that, he surprises you. He’s knocking at your house with 3 different variants of take out siomai from North Park. Effort di ba? Pero he never asks to be more than that. Walang follow through ang kakaibang sweetness. You stay there wondering if you’ll expect something ba. Wag na, anak.

Remember, if a guy wants you, magsasabi yan. He’ll do everything for you not to go away. Pero if a guy doesn’t like you, nothing can make him stay.

The Mama’s Boy. Boyfriend mo na but it seems the relationship’s very crowded. Ang other woman is his mother. You feel that there’s nothing you can do that can make her accept you. “Maganda ka pala sa personal. Ang laki kasi ng ilong mo sa pictures eh.”, says the mother. Ang ilong ko tuloy ang lagi kong tinitingnan sa photos ever since. Be sensitive sa mga ganyang comments ng mudra ng jowa mo. And also be sensitive how many times your guy says, “Sabi ni Mommy…” or “Mommy said…”. Diyosme, i-basted na yang mag-inang yan. You may not feel it now but that will be a big factor if in case you decide to settle with that boy.

The All Looks Guy. I call him All Looks because that’s all that he is. Tall, dark and handsome. Siya na yun. Ang pogi talaga, aspiring model eh. One time I asked delicately why he stopped schooling. He said that he doesn’t need school kasi he’ll model na lang daw. I could hear alarm sounds in my head. He has been trying to make it for more that half a decade na pero isang print ad pa lang ang nagawa. All those time, ayun, nakatambay lang sa bahay ng nanay niya. Not cool. I-basted na yan.

Remember anak, do not look at the physical appearance of the guys lang. There’s gotta be something inside the coconut. You would need a street smart man. Ang diskarte niyan ang bubuhay sa inyo one day.

The Bad Boy. I know why you’re attracted to him. Mana ka kasi sa akin. Good girls are attracted to bad boys. Kaka-ibang species eh. Pero anak, wag ka na diyan. You can seldom tame a bad boy. Almost never. Sa dami ng bad boys na nakilala ko, isa lang ang nagbago because of love. For a while they’ll change pero they’ll just go back to who they are after a period of time. A bad boy is a bad boy. Sa Robin Padilla movies lang nagwoworkout yan.

The Boy With The Ex. Yung sobrang clingy na ex na for some reasons we cannot explain, he can’t tell them to go away. Do not mistake this as him being a gentleman. A true gentleman will know how to properly let go of people he does not want to keep in his life. Totoo yan. That is a complicated relationship to be in. Wag ka nang makisali, anak. Maikwento ko lang. I remember when your Tatay and I were starting to date again in 2007. May girlaloo na tawag ng tawag sa kanya. It was so annoying. What your Tatay did was he fixed it up with the girl before he started dating me again. As kung sino itong girl na ito, di ko siya knowing. Ask your Ate Girlie. Hehe.

The Bestfriend. If you are lucky to have a strong, platonic relationship with a nice and responsible guy (you need a male perspective every now and then, anak),  keep it that way. Do not fall in love with your best friend. If you started out as bestfriends, it’s not wise to bring it to another level. There is no assurance that it will work. Ask yourself this instead, “Are you willing to risk losing this person if ever things will not work out?” If no, stay friends. Period.

The Rebound Guy. Regardless if you’re the rebound girl or he’s the rebound guy in the relationship, wag mo nang i-push yan. If I learned one thing sa dami ng naging boyfriends ko, both of you should not have hang ups when entering a new relationship. Hihilahin kayo pababa ng mga issues na yan. The relationship has a higher survival rate if both of you have clean slates. Mas maagaan ang feeling.

There are more kinds of men out there anak. Hindi ganun ka-dami ang naging boyfriends ko to meet all of them. There’s the guy who disrespects his mother. Sa awa ng Diyos, all of my boyfriends were really sweet to their moms. Remember anak, you can see how your future husband would treat you if you see how he treats his mother. There’s the guy with commitment issues. Stay away from him. Wag mo yang pag-tiyagaan. There’s the violent guy. Naku anak, please lang. Kung ayaw mo makapatay ng tao ang Tatay mo, stay away from these men.

Maraming marami pa diyan anak. Basta remember that you can always come to me if you have guy problems. Let’s deal with that together okay? =)

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That’s it!

Kamusta mga girls? May mga familiar ba diyan sa mga nasabi ko? =)